At what point should you cut yourself off from someone who has destructive behaviour? At what point would you say enough is enough?
How many times would you go through the same destructive behaviour with someone? Someone, who you love so dearly however it’s having a detrimental affect on your own mental health?
How many times would you help to pick up the pieces whilst they are already off onto their next destructive path? At what point would you stop?
I have tried so very hard, and “learnt behaviour” is the worst. I am no saint, I have made millions of mistakes and yet I have learnt and grown, through ageing and wisdom. This is what we do when we learn and grow…. and yes sometimes we repeat the mistakes until the lessons are learnt and we move on.
How do you take “the world off your shoulders?” How do you deal with the guilt, in thinking it’s your fault that they are this way?
How do you help someone who doesn’t see their behaviour is destructive, who doesn’t see the devastating affect it has on others around them. Someone who continues on their path totally oblivious to the hurt they have caused, but it’s ok… they are ok now.
How do you deal with the after effects when you are emotionally drained? How do you just walk away for their good and your own sanity?
How do you walk away and not enable their behaviour any more? How many times do we have to get to the same old place, the same old pattern? How do we stop it when you feel it is your job to help and support them?
How can we just walk away? Will that do more harm than good?
I don’t know any of the answers to any of those questions, all I know is that right now I must focus on my life, my health however heartbreaking it is…. but I still love them …
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